Life can be like a ledger, tracking gains and losses. Few of us suffer pain when we gain or lose if we agree with it and want it. It is when we do not consciously choose it that we run into the emotional downward spiral.
At an unconscious level we choose everything for there are those who say it is what the soul has chosen for this lifetime. So everything even though it may feel like a painful loss is actually a gain. This premise presumes we are experiencing life from a higher level of consciousness.
Yet precisely on our journey to higher consciousness, we will stand in agreement with the above perspective and welcome all experiences as a doorway to growth and higher conscious evolution.
In the meantime, life happens, it gets messy and painful, jobs end, relationships end, earthly life ends, finances burden and redesign our lifestyle etc. and with these events a windfall of pain accompanies them unless consciously chosen.
The pain is what keeps us stuck, and into patterns of unconscious repetition unless we heal the pain, move to higher understandings and let it go…move on, release the grip it has on us. We do not have to let go of the story of what caused the pain, it is the pain we need to let go of. This is where healing is. The art of healing our losses is indeed an art and a journey in itself.
Yet we often stay stuck not only with our pain, but with our story, seeking others to validate our story and make us right and someone wrong rather than validate the pain and realize that the story is a perspective and may or may not be right.
However at a higher consciousness it is not about being right or wrong, but living from a higher realm of understanding and being that does not invest time or energy into being right or wrong, but just staying in the light, expanded in our highest being and in unity.
Seeking to heal all pain from our stories so that we can convert each painful experience into a diamond of light and draw strength from what has already happened is something to aspire to. For as we release the pain and transform it, it will no longer diminish us, but expand us spiritually.
Loss in whatever size it comes must be grieved in order to heal…and that is an art in itself. More on this art of grieving will follow in other reflections.
In the meantime, take some time and make an inventory of where you are now on your ledger of gains and losses. If there is a salient loss you are living now, “do not sweep it under the carpet” as they say, but spend the time to work through it, not around it. When we experience the feelings fully, we can begin to release them, if we shortchange this process, it tends to last longer in our emotional bodies and will resurface later, reminding you that your work is not over. Avoidance guarantees we will relive it again for “what goes under comes out sideways”, “what is not talked about gets acted out”.
We are invited to heal all our pain in order to evolve and shift to a higher consciousness…
Maria Hilda Pinon, author of The Willows of Corona, a novel, and Candles in the Dark…poems to grieve, hope and love again.
